Mental Health Without the Bullsht – Entry #11

IMPORTANT NOTE: I am NOT a mental health professional. If you need help, I STRONGLY encourage you to seek it, and you can start here. This series of blog posts is me candidly sharing my deeply personal experiences with you (with some tears along the way).

We’ve Never Been More “Connected”—and More Alone

We’ve got smartphones, group chats, likes, comments, followers, video calls, dating apps, online communities, and 24/7 access to almost everyone.

And yet?

More people are reporting loneliness, anxiety, and emotional isolation than ever before.
Suicide rates are up.
Depression is rising.
Friendships are dying out in adulthood.
And despite all the noise, most of us feel like no one really sees us.

This Isn’t Just Sad—It’s Dangerous

Loneliness isn’t just about feeling alone. It’s about feeling unseen. Unheard. Disconnected from meaning.

And over time, that shit erodes everything:

• Your mental health
• Your self-worth
• Your energy
• Your ability to keep going

People don’t just snap one day.
They slip—quietly—into deeper and deeper isolation until the silence gets too heavy to carry.

And the worst part?
No one notices.
Because they’re too busy numbing their own loneliness to recognize yours.

Hyperconnection Isn’t Human Connection

We’ve confused interaction with intimacy.
Notifications with relationships.
Visibility with vulnerability.

You can have a hundred DMs and still feel completely alone.
You can post daily and still feel like no one really knows you.
You can be surrounded by people and still feel completely invisible.

Why?
Because we’ve replaced real connection with performance.

We show the highlight reel.
We keep it light.
We avoid going deep because deep is risky.

So we scroll.
We laugh at memes.
We ghost people we care about.
And then we wonder why we feel so damn empty.

I’ve Felt It Too

There’ve been times in my life where I had a full calendar, a successful career, and a big-ass network…
But no one I could really talk to.
No one I could text at 2am and say, “I’m not OK.”
No one who knew the real me beneath the titles, the strength, the sarcasm, the mask.

And I didn’t know how to ask for it—because I didn’t know if it was safe.

So How Do We Fix It?

There’s no quick fix. But there is a way forward:

1. Go first.

Be the one who reaches out.
Be the one who gets honest.
Be the one who drops the small talk and says, “Seriously, how are you?”

2. Stop performing.

People connect with your flaws, not your filtered perfection.
Let people see the mess. It’s how they know they’re not alone in theirs.

3. Reconnect offline.

Talk in person. Call someone. Sit down for a drink or a walk or nothing at all.
Presence matters more than emojis ever will.

4. Build fewer, deeper relationships.

Quality beats quantity—every time.
Find your people. Nurture the hell out of those relationships. Don’t take them for granted.

5. Admit when you’re lonely.

Say it. Out loud. Without shame.
There’s power in breaking the silence.

Final Thought

We were built for connection—not just communication.
We don’t need more likes. We need more love, more real talk, more safe spaces to be ourselves.

If you feel lonely, you’re not broken.
You’re just a human being in a world that forgot how to slow down and sit with each other.

So reach out.
Open up.
Reconnect.

Because we’re not meant to do life alone—even if we’re good at faking it.